Baby Girl Z has been very good to me, but I won’t give her all the credit, I had a lot to do with my overall positive experience. Many women are surprised to hear that I’ve had such a pleasant pregnancy. Pregnancy doesn’t need to be dreadful. With only two weeks till Baby Z comes I haven’t thrown up, only had two three cry fests (the last few weeks have been the most emotional for me), no constipation or hemorrhoids and barely any limitations. Sure you could contribute this to good genes and being healthy, but I mainly contribute it to maintaining a good attitude.
Expect the best
Like most women I’ve heard the horror pregnancy stories (sick every day, bed rest, total body swelling, gained 70 lbs.) and although it prepared me for the worst, I EXPECTED the best. Even when I had a bought of sciatica during my second trimester I didn’t expect to suffer with it throughout the rest of my pregnancy. It was a fight to believe the best, but I was determined not to give in. My husband prayed for me and I believed that it would pass and it did! Then it came back again for two days during my third trimester and again I said “No”! Ryan prayed for me and it passed after two days.
I have watched pregnant women give into their symptoms and fears and it makes for an unpleasant l experience. Yes, there are discomforts that we go through, there are good days and not so good days, but I truly believe that if we choose to EXPECT the best every day we’ll have a better overall pregnancy.
Empowered by knowledge
What are most pregnant women the most afraid of? Yup, that’s right – pushing that baby out. There are quite a few pregnant women in my circle and the when that topic comes up the fear turns their face ghost white. I won’t lie, I’m a little nervous about labor and delivery, but I am also very calm and optimistic about it. Why? Because I feel empowered by the knowledge I’ve received through books, videos, classes, conversations and a hospital tour. My response to these frightened women is that women give birth every day. God created our bodies to give birth. Plus studies have shown that going into labor and delivery calm, cool and collected makes for a quicker and less painful experience. Why waste time being in fear, just expect the best, be empowered by knowledge and be present for one of the best moments of your life.
I find it very sad that most women put more time, money and effort into their appearance or a new purchase than preparing for pregnancy, labor, delivery and motherhood. There is a plethora of resources at our fingertips that will help prepare mothers-to-be. Here are my top five:
Several mom’s recommended that I read: What to Expect When You’re Expecting, which was very helpful!
- Ryan and I watched this documentary together and feel that it was the BEST resource for getting us prepared for labor and delivery The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake
- Labor and Delivery – the Basics was the perfect class for us! It was a super informative four hour class taught by a certified doula. We were able to get all our questions answered!
- Since my mom will be joining us in the labor and delivery room, she tagged along for the hospital tour. Being familiar with the hospital where you’ll be delivering eliminates several unknowns making you and your partner more at ease.
- Talk to other mom’s, especially those who had a labor and delivery that you hope to model after. I had the privilege of having coffee with a friend today that was able to have her baby boy naturally. She had a great support system in the room that allowed her to stay focused and positive. Thus, she has a very good labor and delivery experience to share.
Preparing for pregnancy, labor, delivery and motherhood are one of the best investment that you can make. There comes a point where experience will need to be your teacher, but why not prepare up until that point?
Being happy is a choice.