Frustrated, exhausted and unmotivated described me a few months ago. I couldn’t put my finger on what it was, probably due to sleep deprivation and being on the go until my head hits the pillow (well that is until Lucie calls me for her next feeding). I’m a happy, content and at peace woman and I like to keep it that way. So when I’m feeling otherwise it’s a nonnegotiable that I carve out time to figure out what’s off or out of balance.
Abundant seasons call for time to pause and reflect. When life is so full that your head feels like its spinning there may be a few changes that are needed. I’m coming out of one of those seasons right now. Sometimes the word hectic comes out of my mouth, which I don’t like because it tells me I’ve allowed stress/fear in. Juggling a husband, full-time career, baby girl, home, family and friends and an active church life can be tricky. I’m BLESSED and I like my life, but especially during major life changes (e.g. new home, new baby) it’s necessary to make adjustments to protect your peace and happiness.
One of my realizations after becoming a mom is that you share almost everything with baby, especially your time. Before I gave birth to Lucie I was accustomed to having several pockets of alone time during the day. As an introvert I enjoy my quiet time reading a book, going for a run or writing a blog article. Now alone time is rare. I felt so bad when I would go a few days without spending quality time with God, exercising or applying makeup.
It took some creativity and adjustment, but now I’m able to spend time with God, get ready, exercise and read throughout the day. When Lucie is having her morning play time I enjoy a nutritious breakfast, which is important for both of us since I’m still breastfeeding. During our morning stroll I talk to God and get exercise while Lucie gets fresh air. When she’s laying on a blanket outside gazing at the trees and birds I do my devotional. Sometimes while I feed her I read an article. Yes, it’s shared time with Lucie, but I look at it as a plus because it will benefit her in the long-run.
I’m a happier girl now thanks to reflection and creative ideas. Here are a few of our daily habits that benefit both of us.
When I first brought my baby home I got in the habit of playing purposeful music, not just any nursery rhyme CD. My friend Barry Buckner writes and produces Lullaby Confession CDs,
which are positive affirmations set to music. My favorite song on the Tropical Encouragement CD is called, You are Loved. The song goes like this “Love you cause you’re special, love you cause you’re gentle, love your lovely smile, love you cause you’re mine.”
On the You Can Dream CD, the song Sweet Slumber has helped Lucie fall asleep on several occasions and the song Healthy Child was comforting to both of us when Lucie wasn’t feeling well.
Now that Lucie is crawling, when she wakes up in the morning after I change, feed and dress her I put on her Lullaby CD and let her have playtime in her room while I enjoy my breakfast. What better way to start our day that with scripture based songs?!
Every morning after we listen to our Lullaby Confessions we have a few minutes of cuddle time in my bed. I hold her close, pepper her with kisses and tell her…
Lucie, you are smart, beautiful inside and out, gentle, kind, healthy, and creative!
Showing our loved ones affection is so important. There are scientific studies behind physical touch having healing powers. It doesn’t take much time, a kiss on the cheek here, a pat on the butt there, a soft caress of the back and the list goes on.
Moms and Dads I want to know about your creative ideas! How do you take care of your children’s needs while also taking care of your own? How does your family worship God together? How do you spend quality time with your family?